my girlfriend is dragging me down

Step by step. I feel like she is using me even though I take care of her. Tissue Issues: My Friend Is Dragging Me Down. Or are they falling back into a state where they feel they are most comfortable. I want so much to help her, but I feel like I have nothing else to give. You have two choices. Sorry if I sound morbid but its devastating. It hurt me deeply and I dont know what to do. Life is can be cruel, tough and deceiving. It also seems like you have come to the realization that this situation is not sustainable and that something must change. When asked I would avoid the answer because I really didnt know, and when forced, probably I would put the blame on someone else or act with aggression. She didnt even try to make the effort in keeping the conversation going and Im always the one who care about her when she doesnt give a thought about me and keep immersing herself in her depressive world. I have seen suicide attempts, aggression and erratic and forceful ways of keeping me locked in the house every time I threaten to leave. She is suffering from depression, anxiety, restlessness, nightmares, physical issues and so on. "Unhealthy relationships can literally make you feel drained of energy. This is important: I have to tell you you will not find the cure, you can be there and support but please stop believing that it will make the problem go away. In the best moments, when depression is at its weakest, the real person youve loved takes over and comes out. I dont mind being a caretaker.. but it has to be for someone who also cares about me. And this is where our problems come in. If things aren't going well, if there's a lack trust, or if you don't feel secure, then it makes sense that anxiety might become an issue. This makes any conversion on other topics nearly impossible or difficult until her anxieties about her health are addressed. Ive been there, multiple times. Tell her its either you or the ex, no friendships either. Having your sh$t together isnt exactly essential for survival anymore. Shes gone to therapy, but currently not going. I had a 3 month relationship with a depressed woman and it was comparable to a roller coaster ride at Disney land ups and downs it was beyond this world everything was my fault problems was created and misery was the icing on the cake. Dude, You are NOT responsible for the thoughts, feelings, or behaviors or others. This then gives my anxiety about getting erectile dysfunction. I have been dating my girlfriend for almost two years. My girlfriend has been depressed for a number of years, unable to shake feelings of sadness and hopelessness that carry over into almost every aspect of our life together. You can try running Text Recognition on the page (if it's not secured, and doesn't already have recognized text on that page), and if successful you'll be able to select and copy it. They take all the goodness from you and leave you with nothing but sadness and depression. I am moved by how exactly you also spoke for myself Wish we could go for a beer. If your partner dominates every aspect of your shared lives, you may be in a draining relationship. So both of you can benefit. And thats when shit will get unbearable for the two of you. But i will never get married again since it really has become very risky for many of us men that have been married the first time. Medication and therapy dont really work. Hey i am in a LDR and i need your help my gf is also depressed, she doesnt tell the stuff she is going through, yea she tells me most of the things but not that. The text is most likely a part of an image, then. Here are 10 who are holding you down. But how is it possible? She posts lots of hurtful things on her networks, she gets only and doesnt talk to me, shes alway leaving to something, she doesnt seem to care about things Ive got to say, shes no longer responsive or interested and shes been pretending fun, she doesnt seem to care at all anymore, and when I openly say how this has been hurting me and how things changed drastically, she always blames her condition, that she is really depressed and in mood swings, but she no longer let me be closer, she no longer wants to talk. If she wanted to cheat that is her choice. But I just dont know anymore. Wow. v. 1. Healthy couples can chat about pretty much anything. She doesnt want to leave me either, because if she does she says she will kill herself. ), it can really start to drag you down. Its killing me inside as she looks so helpless, vulnerable, alone and she has the face of one of the most beautiful girls you would ever meet. Your story is pretty much identical to mine. You may also try this, what my boyfriend did: he said he is leaving me cause it is too hard for him, he left me for two painful days, then he told me that he will be back, but in some time. I feel like if I do shell ask why I havent been talking to her, she wont message me for atleast 2 days if I do. What's my issue, and what steps can or should I take that would help both her and me? I dont know if that is the case with you too. If your partner makes you uncomfortable about being you, then her or she is only dragging you down. She talks about it so much now that I dont even get shocked anymore. If signs point to your partner, it's time to make a change. Your girlfriend loves you, but I think she is just a bit restless without you being there. Trying to fix it on yours own either no optional. (Not married) See what I mean? She will need manpower to make the move happen. and the thing with sex: if you are curious and want to understand: Dragged Down. My partner's negativity gets me down A happy, optimistic man is brought down by the relentless negativity of his partner. Im in a LDR myself too although I have never met her IRL. You sound like a great boyfriend supporting her an everything.But where us your relationship right now?I mean,have you become just a caretaker for her,a shoulder to cry on?Or have you guys maintained your relationship to a good enough level so far?This is very important because what happens once she gets over her depression depends a lot on this.If she only sees you like a caretaker,there isnt much of a role for you to play when she does conquer her depression!Please reflect on this and sort things out.I know how it feels to stand by someone and then be abandoned by that same person.I would hate for that to happen to anybody else,especially to someone who has been as supportive as youve been! I did anything to help her, yet there seems to be no progress. DUMP THE SAD GIRL OTHERWISE SHE WILL DRAG YOU DOWN. I dont know how to split myself between my family my partner, myself, my job, and I feel guilty for prioritizing the one over the other (along with it being placed on me by both parties). The yoyo effect lasts only so long and some people need to realize if people wont do something to help themselves there is nothing in this world you can do about it. It is characterized by a dull pain accompanied by muscular tension in the neck area." I am trying to help her but I could not help anymore than this.i could not concentrate on caring myself, could not eat or sleep well. Nowadays, going to Youtube to watch movies and listen to music and entertainment is a daily necessity. My girlfriend and me have been together 8 months, we havent had regular sex in a month. Compatibility Mechanical: 64 Bit (x64) You tend to put blame on you, stop doing this. I need to know, I was engaged to get married to her but we called it off. She relies on me sitting down and talking sense to her, but I too feel like a caretaker, an older sibling or even a parent sometimes. Kind regards, The GoodTherapy Team, Im going through a similar thing, Ive been with my girlfriend for 4 years, shes been through childhood trauma, depression, anxiety, borderline personality disorder, shes friendly when normal, considerate of others, respects me, whenever theres an emotional issue , though not my fault, she became destructive, recklessly destroyed everything she could see, started to be indifferent to me, aloof, aggressive, self-harm, said a lot of negative things, i love her i tried meditating and Self hypnosis to deceive my emotions, I dont know what to do, I dont know how long I can hold on, Im afraid Im really broken, it will hurt everyone. but she made fun of me she said she wasnt going to read this BS. It may be subtle behaviors such as never showing an interest in you or socializing with your friends, or it could be outright insults that damage your sense of self-worth. ", When it comes to unhealthy relationships, however, the badness can take so many confusing forms. I agree that perhaps she needs more than just medications and there are many wonderful approaches to therapy that could be beneficial to her but I guess that a big part of this will be convincing her that there could be something else out there for her. Its a positive sign that you seem to have a solid sense not only of where she is, but also where you are. On my side my family is going through a very rough time and were worried about losing our home, Im going through a quarter-life crises where I dont know what I studied is the right thing for me, Im also really worried about my future because I dont know where Im heading in life. My Friend Is Draining Me! Tristen, Armand, sounds like your girlfriends have real life boyfriends too. We do love each other, but her depression, mixed with her anxiety about our future as parents of the same child, is becoming too much for me to remain hopeful. Can anyone help me and tell me what can i do?. Well, Ive dating this girl for the last half-year, after two years of deep depression, isolation, drugs & alcohol abuse and poverty. She tried attempting suicide few times.Even I am loving her lot but could not make her understand.she always wants me to be around my arms! Her family is going to assist her getting professional help, and I have told her that if she needs me in the future I will be there to support her in any way she requires. I could stay in bed 2 days in a row. I did every single thing that you guys have written here. Ive been going to therapy for 3 years and talking about my problems doesnt help me. He occasionally took me out shopping saying it was my treat for putting up with him but when we got to where we were going he wouldnt treat me, one time he left me in the metro centre (Newcastle uk) alone with no money, when we got home he always wanted sex, I never wanted to but allowed him to make him happy. If you're being dragged down by your partner, it could be due to cheating, or emotional abuse, or a lack of support. He never told me his true feelings for me until he asked me to be his proper girlfriend (of corse I said yes) the first 3 months was perfect, He treat me like a princess even though he was depressed he was lovely, under one condition, if I didnt go see my friends and I didnt drink alcohol. "When youre stressed, your heart starts pumping blood faster through your veins to give you energy to deal with that perceived threat," said Marcelina Hardy on BettyConfidential.com. I always stopped everything to help her, to stay hours remind her how she is incredible. I thought she was the woman of my life, that I would do anything for her and I would but she simply doesnt want. I feel you. I completely changed from confident cheeky fit guy to someones whose fat, very low self esteem and broken. She says its her medication but shes been on it since the age of 15 and shes 45 now, Im 42 I knew I had a little depression here and there and a bit of self destructive I dont want to go to work kinda lazy crap going on. During the relationship, she refused to be medicated or to be accompanied by a psychologist. Should I leave her be and wait for her to consult me? If your partner isn't nice, or loving, or supportive in any way, it can leave you feeling perfectly drained of energy. I love her so much, but I know Id rather deal with these issues now than a year or 2 into a relationship. I dont know what to do any more, Im losing to much sleep, my work is taking a toll and so is my health. Shes 30 but she isnt mature enough to have any responsibility, I pity for it. Youve asked some really important questions about yourself: Am I codependent? Whats my issue? What steps can or should I take? These questions are as important as they are complicated. Relationships are supposed to build you up, be super supportive, and make you a better person. When someone puts you down, deal with it by not immediately reacting to him. She has told me that my love and support has made her feel so special and that Im an amazing guy that deserves to be happy, and I believe her. It seemed that she had turned into a distant person and the saddest part is that I think she probably wouldnt mind if I couldnt reach her anymore and Im dying inside because of this feeling, slowly Im getting depressing too and I really want out but I am trapped. You wish your sex like was more active, but hate being the one to initiate. Its extremely helpful to be able to read something from the person suffering from depression. I feel for you all. Drag Me Down Lyrics [Verse 1: Harry] I've got fire for a heart, I'm not scared of the dark You've never seen it look so easy I got a river for a soul, and, baby, you're a boat Baby, you're my. It was a no-win situation for me. And dwelling in the state of permanent not-understanding-what-is-going-on is no option. I took on too much. Im not sure whats going on but I let her know constructively that I considered leaving her I know its harsh but it was a reality check. Ive been with my girlfriend for ten years, starting in college. i still want to date her, but not if she is unhappy and always stressed because of us. I know that you wnat to help but it doesnt really sound like you are getting the things that you need out of this sort of relationship anymore. My ex boyfriend left me because I was depressed all the time. She is in a constant state of less sad at the best of times. Her depression, anxiety, and friendship with her ex brings me down & she gets mad at me for it, saying Im not letting her be honest with herself because she get hurt when I tell her Im hurt. I even offered to pay for the consultation costs. She didnt want to go to my graduation. 1 shes too lazy 2 her parents dont let her. You deserve to be happy as well. Hugs. A healthy relationship will feel secure no matter what. Am I taking the wrong approach? She was sweet, sensitive and caring. And also I realised that people dont like sad people. I told her that i love her and i would never leave her, i forgave her cuz she lied to me, i told her that if i was with right now i would give her a hug and a kiss. Maybe she doesnt want to tell you how much she wants you to be with her because she doesnt want to appear needy. Dealing with a depressed girl isnt easy and there some moments of greatness and when it happens I take full advantage of it. Ive been with my girl for over 4 months now, but we have been good friends for more than 7 years. Shell probably choose you at first but then once she goes back to try and be friends with the ex, end that shit. This is verbatim my situation. Atlast I hate the word LOVE with cry. It is very sad when a very good man like me just happens to have very bad luck with women when i really shouldnt at all. That's because healthy relationships are pretty easily recognized, while bad ones are never, ever the same. Now I am devastated, saddened and hurt by the fact my beautiful girlfriend (now ex) is so unwell and theres nothing that I can really do, except offer my support and love. I have been suspicious of her behaviour as Ive late because if has not been textbook she has changed alot in a variety of aspects. And that is the hard and painful task to face the truth, because depression is, for me at least running away form truth, avoiding to face it. ! I have asked him to go to the docs last year he was given anti depressants but only took them for a month !!!! Im sorry for all of us that love was not enough. I beat my depression, i became happy again but after a year with my gf and trying to care for her depression i can feel it creeping back again. It takes a huge amount of love to do that. Uffo , I feel like I dont want anything in my life. We talked (argued) about the lack of sex and how distant we are and she said that she doesnt feel any of these feelings, and that sometimes we doesnt feel comfortable thinking about sex. But i just seem lost and i need answers, idk if i was harsh and Im totally new at this so Im sorry if i was being harsh and all but plz help. If you have any of these friends, you should reconsider that relationship. She thinks I must be sleeping with someone else & she is not the object of my desire. Youve been shouldering a significant burden on your own for years; it sounds like you are ready to let someone help you carry the load. If she did you would know. I love her but I just think staying will be self destructive for me and just enabling to her. yesterday she said dating isnt working for either of us, the things that we need to change are things that cant chnange. Understand that put-downs are a reflection of the other person's insecurity and get support from trusted confidantes. You have to tell her when she hurts you. A trusted therapist will help you thoroughly explore these questions, develop insights, and create and implement a plan of action. Depression is a serious issue that is very difficult to understand. We were engaged. She just takes things to seriously when i try to joke around with her which i really can see that she has a real problem to begin with. He has on multiple occasions told me that he only feels happy, safe and secure around me, and that if it wasnt for me he wouldve killed himself long ago. He would only talk and see me when he had nothing else to do but I was okay with that I was inlove with him. Then she started talking that her family pressured her, about the meds and that she loved me, but had a really hard time. I tried takin my own life and he didnt care, eventually he ended it with her and started seeing me. Good Luck Everyone. Dry spells happen a lot. I didnt know about it. It works for me (I dont really have a hobby Im just at school all the time). Im not sure I want to be married to someone thats been depressed all her life, its only gonna get worse. I dont know how much you have tried already, but why not try it? "My problem is that since we have moved in together, she is negative about everything." My girlfriend and I have been together for three years. She might miss you. Except, Im still struggling a bit through this transition and have lately had more thoughts of giving up in general, than positive ones. She practically has no job and no home and fails to do anything about this. There has to be a time limit of when to say enough is enough. I started to be rude and aggressive. Hell even the break up process reinforces their behavior. She still will randomly text me I love you! The odd time but the girl I felt secure with seems to have left her conscience. Im fed up though. Im having this problem with my depressed gf too who I have been in a relationship with for almost 6 months now but lately, she changed from being caring to cold and selfish and I didnt do anything to anger her and treated her wth utmost care and lots of love since the beginning of our relationship. She probably wants you to make a call. I have good days and bad days. I love her, but I cant go on like this, sometimes I want to escape, but I cant. We are in the office Monday through Friday from 8:00 a.m. to 4:00 p.m. Mountain Time, and our phone number is 888-563-2112 ext 3. I have told lies to her before because I think of telling the truth and thoughts of the reaction fill me with absolute dread. I am really surprised to see that there is so many cases of difficult relationships, and also that persons who write here are mostly guys dealing with broken girlfriends. Life is too short to waste time and energy on depressed people. Day in or out, shell leave me broken again, I know it, just dont know when. 10 Things That Happen If Your Relationship Is Draining Your Energy 1. Bishop Blurz. Let her try and fix that. At the end of the day, I just believe that depression was just an excuse. My suggestion is start having a quality of life before it is to late , love is wonderful when it is growing but it can be hell if it is one sided. Am I codependent? It Feels Like They Always Ask Too Much. We all have to remain positive people. The more. There has to be solutions. She had issues before with sex and that was part of why she drank. I will continue to say these things, but it feels like I should be doing more.). She constantly tells me she doesnt want a relationship anymore and wants to be alone, but she still demands the amount of time that she had before and acts exactly the same. I do not see a future with her but I get so torn up at the thought of leaving her to her depression and her situation, Im in the exact same situation as you gaz. It is your life too. Therapy and meds nothing will work. I am very caring, soft spoken and outspoken. "Trust is lost and conflict often results in anger and finger pointing." Shes struggled to be present at her job, and isnt able to meet deadlines or pass things in on time. Thanks for your testimony Ching. Listen, really try to listen like she was your best friend not girlfriend. Cmon guys you know the drill. Before the depression she was great, and we saw each other very often. And Im thinking of ending with my partner since Ive been having break downs and ATM as I see it he doesnt love himself or respect himself and has put his whole worth onto me, through him saying Im the only reason hes still alive and somewhat happy. Smoking and drinking! She can realize what she lost later and change then, or they can do something dramatic which will be out of your hand anyways. The GoodTherapy.org Team. 6. It drove me to breakdown myself. I really hope that it is it. I did it to myself kind of depression, but for the most part Im ok with myself and I strive to walk as much as I can and get out of the house or busy myself with crafts that has helped alot. The burden on caretakers is significant, and there is great therapeutic value in realizing you are not alone. And here's hoping you both can turn things around, and have a little more of that "good.". Help me drag the camping gear down the hill. Posted October 5, 2013 | Reviewed by Ekua Hagan Question: Hi Irene, My BFF and I have been friends since high school. Seems like a pattern, a thing to analyse better. She is a no bullshit chick that has always been completely honest with me about everything and this is no exception. However, i was in a grade above her and graduated and proceeded to get a job so i could support our lives, this made texting hard as i had very early starts and it was very physically and mentally tiring work, however i still texted her as much as possible. These people are emotionally selfish they may not do it on purpose but they will take away everything that defines you and then you will be a empty shell . She did not want to fight, and when I thought finally thing would become better, she just said that she did not have time or energy to focus on the relationship, and wanted to focus on herself. I looked it up. She questioned our status, then says if we are a couple we should act like one (she is always busy and making plans with friends so I leave her be) which she doesnt like. Like you rejecting the last possible form of understanding and connection. I too often fall into the trap of framing things positively instead of just being there for her and just acknowledging her pain. Fact is the depression got better since he mey, I struggle with episodes now, not the full playlist, so to speak. You will only drag yourself down in the end. Consider suggesting that she talk about these possibilities with her psychiatrist and therapist (if she has one). Before this everything was amazing, great relationship, we admitted to each other that we were in love and had fallen head over heals, amazing sex, I really felt like I had found my best friend. I dont see it getting any better. THAT IS PROVEN IN PSYCHOLOGY. Stress can cause all sorts of problems. If she needs the ex in her life she doesnt need you, she just wants you. That left me with a perspective of loosing someone I really love and also left space for me to think about it in safe environment. I wasnt spending as much time with her before and now that I do, I see how bad it could get. deep thoughts in my head And they just keep dragging me down there down so deep Dragging me down so deep Dragging me down so deep Dragging me down so. And as you deal with their negativity, you may find yourself no longer interested in things you used to find fun like going out, being social, or, you know, leaving the apartment. He has put me last every time. We list further resources on this page:https://www.goodtherapy.org/in-crisis.html, If you would like to get in touch with a therapist, you can search our directory for mental health professionals in your area: goodtherapy.org/find-therapist.html. You are helpful to them by being there when they need you. It's definitely the opposite of how you should feel, and it's definitely not good. I was in shock but I have on other option than to fight. all of our arguments come from her depression and her being in a bad mood, i can only sometimes cheer her up. Am I giving up too quickly, am I weak, am I selfish I really dont know what I should do or feel right now. All i see now is cold person who i love and so frustrated by the lack of intimacy. I feel im depressed, asking myself was actually our sexlife good becuase she was drinking, and that the person im with now has no interest in sex at all? She might be craving for you to cross the distance. Setup Type: Offline Installer / Full Standalone Setup. Setup Size: 8.9 GB. His moods got worse, we have to do whatever he wants to do, I am too scared to loose him but Ive already lost myself, I dont recognise myself anymore I was once this girl who didnt need anyone, kept everything to herself, let medication deal with my emotions now I sit and cry myself to sleep and feel so hopeless. Every time I look at her pics, I am immediately in love again by seeing her smile but in person all I am thinking of is an exit strategy despite all the caring in the world. Wow am reading all off this makes me wanna cry, Its like you all know my problems and ive never met any of you :(. In the beginning of her depression I was able to make her feel better, but it was due to talking to her almost every waking hour in some form, and I would constantly have to reassure her that everything was alright. So if your partner isn't pulling his or her weight, you may find yourself feeling like giving up. Learn how to be supportive if need be and get counseling yourself. Shes 30, Im 26, she never had a boyfriend, nor had sex or drugs nor anything. Now I am questioning myself whether to leave her or hold her.whether she ll feel better later on if I suppose leave her. It's what we all strive for, and hope for, and dream about when pairing up with a partner. She losing her best friend to cancer and she going through crisis with weight loss. Can still manage to go to pool every Tuesday night til 2am. And it was bad enough that i was married at one time and my Ex wife cheated on me thinking that i was going to spend the rest of my life with her at the time. i fell as if i cant help her, im not good enough to make her happy although i try so hard and its making me doubt myself more and more. My Girlfriends Depression Is Bringing Me Down. When that happens, it may be time for some serious reflection. I have a feeling I might just kill myself if this goes on. One day she wanted to elope Bcos she feared the crowd at our wedding and the next day she just broke it off completely with no reasons. I almost lost my identity and values. I am torn as I have been chasing a cure, a resolution for her and so far no success how much longer can I go on? Its dragging me down and she wont listen to me and wouldnt want to change her way of thinking for herself or anyone, I hate to say this but I realized she is actually very stubborn and selfish. It drives me nuts when she sleeps all day. Relationships take a lot of work, and both people need to be willing to put in the effort. Good Luck!! I tried hard to keep the relationship going, but I was alone in that battle. thanks for everyone comments! About me and my girlfriend! somewhere inside you still know that too, its a natural instinct. First two years went well. I take it this is detrimental to a persons feelings who has depression. And it started to bring me down even more. 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